7 Things You Might Be Doing Wrong on Dating Sites

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Many people turn to online dating as an easy way to find potential partners for casual and serious relationships. Some are successful, while others fail. If you keep failing you might be doing something wrong. Here is a list of common mistakes you should avoid.

  1. Boring Username

Whenever someone sees your profile, the first thing they will see is your profile username. It is very important to make a good first impression. Find something clever and unique that will intrigue people to see more of your profile. For example, if you are 45 and love hiking, try something like "45Peaks". Experiment a bit and ask your pals for a second opinion.

2. Bad Pictures

Photos are the main attraction of your profile page. Always make sure that your photos are real and recent. Don't use photos from a decade ago. Remember that at some point you will have to meet with a real person and that person will expect to see the person on the photos, not your older fatter self. Also, avoid the head photos that look like mugshots. Show yourself engaged in a hobby or sport. If you can't take good photos by yourself, hire a professional.

3. Make Sure to Update Your Photos

If you are going to use your profile for a long time, you need to show the other members that you are active and healthy. Keep changing those pics at least once a month. Even if someone doesn't like you at first, there is no reason they won't like you in the future. People change, so their photos should also change.

4. Don't Talk With Too Many People at Once

That mistake is commonly made by female users. Women on dating sites tend to receive more messages than their male counterparts. Sometimes they attempt to respond to everyone. That is a big mistake. It is best to focus on a few so you can get to know each one more thoroughly. That cannot be done when you talk to dozens of people at the same time.

5. Stop Using Too Many Adjectives

Some people describe themselves using multiple adjectives — such as adventurous, athletic, open-minded, etc. If you want to say something about yourself, simply demonstrate it. One photo is worth a thousand words and nobody gets bored while looking at a picture.

6. Grammar and Spelling

You need to present yourself in as good a light as possible. This requires decent spelling and grammar. Avoid texting slang. Don't be afraid of using spelling and grammar check tools that are readily available online.

7. Never Give Up

Don't expect to find your potential match right away. Give it some time and stick to it. Remember that you are on a dating site to meet new people. You will have to chat with several until you find someone that will be attracted to you and for whom you will feel the same. Stick with it and eventually, you will find what you are looking for.